You're Looking at the Problem

24 years ago, when I stepped into my original detective role of trying to figure out “what the hey” was causing all my personal trauma & drama.  I attended a convention and bought THIS STICKER for my rear-view mirror. 
It read,
          “You’re looking at the problem.”  
 
When we’re down and out, feeling like crap-ola that’s kind of the last thing we want to hear/embrace {aka take on}.  The truth is we don’t have to take it ON; it’s better if we can just be open to or willing to investigate – the possibility – that we might be attracting the challenges to our life. 
 AND, here’s the celebratory – kicker – much of the time it’s unconsciously OR unknowingly. These discoveries are the #goosebumpy ones!
 
If I were going to share the most difficult challenge within my coaching work first week or two – it would be getting peeps to talk about #self.  Most ALL want to talk about she, he, they, the incident or accident, etc.
I don’t STOP 🛑 this in the beginning because being heard is a vital part of healing. 
 
–TOOL SHARE – We heal when we’re heard. Really listen to your loved ones. Make sure they feel heard.
DO NOT talk, fix, or offer your spin unless specifically asked. 
 
About 3 weeks into the 6-week program it’s time to transition to “what we can change”. That would be us – our perspective.  Our perceptions. 
 
–TOOL SHARE – We talk about and have homework around MISTAKES we’ve made. Mistakes are a natural part of living, connecting and being on this earth.  I’m very comfortable with owning my mistakes most of the time without embarrassment, blame or shame YET I’m 
          COMFORTABLE WITH THIS 
       BECAUSE I WAS TAUGHT THIS. 
An important teaching. 
 
ATTN: WE ARE NOT TAUGHT some of the most valuable skill sets for living life and being kind and loving to ourselves &&& others. Way more important for most peeps than frick’n algebra. Just say’n. 
 
          “You’re looking at the problem” 
isn’t degrading or hard it’s magical when we put our dukes down, pause defensiveness, play detective, discover & uncover, etc. 
It’s the best feeling in the world to “FEEL the FEELS” of Ahhhhhh....Wowzer‼️I had no idea‼️
 
Love ya BIG,
Theresa 
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